I AM AN INTROVERT. Some of my gym friends may be surprised by this but the gym to me is #4 In this article below. I actually know a few instructors who are also introverts.
To me this means that because I enjoy downtime and
"space" I like to think that I respectfully acknowledge when others
need downtime and space in personal endeavors and professional
relationships. I work hard to not be pushy or intrusive. So when I am asking questions, I am genuinely intrigued
and want to know the answers so that I may help you in some manner.
That being said, my sales approach to business, is what I once learned as “heart sales” instead of “hard sales.”
See, I truly enjoy helping people achieve great things. It brings me joy. Whether it’s in the realm of your health, adding happiness, or harmonizing your home setting, it's what I do!
While some may go for a more
urgent, in your face, approach to sales, I prefer a steady, consistent, quality
process where relationships blossom and produce great energy.
So, when you or someone you know are ready to buy or sell a home, I’d be most delighted to facilitate the process and dream.
So, when you or someone you know are ready to buy or sell a home, I’d be most delighted to facilitate the process and dream.
In the mean, time I'll continue to spread positivity and light to anyone open to receiving!!!!
Be well!
~Mindy
12 THINGS INTROVERTS ABSOLUTELY NEED TO BE HAPPY
BY Jenn Granneman
Are you an introvert? If so, you have somewhat different
needs than an extrovert. Introverts don’t chase the same things as extroverts.
They’re not always on the lookout for the next party. Nor do they constantly
need other people to entertain them. Many nights, they’re content to hang out
at home, reading a book, watching a movie, or just puttering around on their
own terms. Loud bars, crowded parties, and busy schedules quickly wear them
out.
Sadly, introverts may feel like they
can’t say what they need. Sometimes they just don’t have the words; the
thoughts tumble around in their heads but don’t come out the way they intended.
Or, they may feel like they have to hide their needs from others. In a society
that favors the extrovert’s way, it’s tough to say, “I need some time to
myself.” But this can leave introverts feeling unhappy, drained, and
unfulfilled.
Here
are 12 things introverts absolutely need to be happy. What would you add to
this list?
1. Time to wind down after a
busy day. An absolute must. Due to biological wiring, introverts are sensitive to
stimulation and process information deeply. Time to unwind allows them to fully
comprehend the events of a busy day — and lower their stimulation level to one
that’s more comfortable and sustainable.
2. Meaningful
conversation. Introverts can’t survive on a diet of small talk alone. “How was
your day?” or “How ’bout this weather?” won’t be enough. Introverts tend to
dive deep, both in their interests and relationships. They need something more: What’s
one new thing you’ve learned lately? How are you a different person today than
you were 10 years ago? Does God exist? Of course, not every conversation has to
be deep. Sometimes introverts really do just want to know what
you did this weekend. But occasionally, to feed their minds and souls, they
need those wide-awake-at-midnight-can’t-stop-talking kind of moments.
3. Comfortable silences. On the flip side, introverts need
people in their lives who are content with quiet. People who can sit in the
same room with them, not talking, each doing their own thing. People who will
not nervously jump to fill a pause in the conversation, but will let thoughts
linger, waiting until each idea has been fully digested. Trust introverts when
they say that silence can be beautiful.
4. Space to dive deep into
their hobbies and interests. 17th century horror novels.
Celtic mythology. Restoring old cars. Gardening, painting, cooking, or writing.
If it’s out there, introverts are doing it. Having the time and space to dive
deep into their interests is recharging. But it’s about more than just doing
the thing. It’s about slowing down and entering a state
of flow— which may come naturally for introverts. Bonus: They end up
becoming experts in their areas of interest.
5. A quiet, calm space that’s
all theirs. Admittedly, this is something I don’t have right now. But the
dream is real: A room to be alone in. A room to arrange however I’d like. A
room with a door that closes out the world, even just for a little while.
For introverts, having a space that’s all theirs makes an incredible difference
in terms of their energy levels. Being alone — truly alone, without fear of
intrusion or interruption — is freeing and invigorating on a nearly spiritual
level.
6. Time to think before
responding. There’s hardly anything more stressful than an impatient
boss or spouse standing before you demanding an answer right now. For
extroverts, it’s usually easy to spout something off. But not so for
introverts, who may rely more on long-term memory than working memory (for
extroverts, it’s the opposite). Usually, a few (pressure-free) beats is all an
introvert needs to reach into their memory and pull out just the right words
they want. Give them that time. It will be worth it, I promise.
7. Friends who understand
that sometimes they will stay home. Introverts won’t attend every
party or get-together. They do enjoy some socializing, but it’s all about
dosage. Too much, and their sensitive systems will have them begging for their
beds. They need friends who understand that sometimes they just can’t “people”
anymore today. These friends know that once introverts have had downtime,
they’ll be up for another (laid-back) adventure.
8. A deeper purpose to their
work. Many introverts want a job that is more than just a
paycheck. Sure, they need to pay their bills, but they want their 9-to-5
efforts to feel worthwhile, too. They want to know that they’re helping others.
That they’re making at least some small difference in the grand scheme of
things. If introverts are just punching in and punching out, doing routine work
that doesn’t seem to fit a wider goal, life will feel hollow.
9. Permission to not explain
sometimes. There are times when they just have no words. They may be
feeling something strongly, but they can’t describe it. Or they need to be
alone right now, but don’t have the energy to provide a lengthy
explanation. When an introvert says, “I don’t want to talk about it,” or
simply, “This is what I need,” let that suffice. After some time to process,
they will likely come back to you with more words.
10. Time and space to work
uninterrupted. It’s no secret that introverts do their best work alone.
Unfortunately, our offices and classrooms are not geared toward quiet
reflection. As a result, you may find introverts sneaking away to the abandoned
corners of the office building. Or coming early or staying late. Or begging to
stay in the classroom — where it’s quiet and empty — during recess. To all
teachers, supervisors, and parents — give introverts the quiet space they need
to think. You may find that you get higher quality work in return.
11. Their tribe. Rarely the
ones for chasing popularity, introverts usually have just a few close friends —
and they prefer it that way. However, note that the key word is “close.”
For introverts, friendship isn’t about just occupying the same space, doing the
same activity. Nor is it about trading gossip. It’s about finding a kindred
spirit, someone who will peek into the introvert’s inner world — and reveal
theirs in return.
12. Time to slow down. Breathe.
Take it all in. Just be. Repeat.
source: https://introvertdear.com/news/introverts-happy-need/
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